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(Berenice Garcia, Daily News) - Amanda Knox has been offered a job in the porn industry, TMZ reports.

Vivid Entertainment has reached out to Amanda Knox to offer her a post in the company that would allow her to remain fully clothed.

Steve Hirsch, founder and co-chairman of Vivid Entertainment, spoke to TMZ about his company’s interest in Knox.

“We would like to offer her the opportunity to be our vivid.com spokesperson and represent the studio at trade and retail events,” Hirsch told TMZ.

Hirsch said the job would not include nudity or sex, but said the company was open to the idea.

“Of course, we would welcome talking to her if she wants to pursue this direction, but the decision is totally hers to express.”

No response from Knox has been reported.

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Cops found Michigan couple in back seat of steamy Buick Regal

When the officer opened the vehicle’s rear door and asked the nude couple what they were doing, Tim Adams offered a concise answer. “I’m fucking this chick,” he said.

OCTOBER 5 (The Smoking Gun) — A naked 71-year-old woman and her equally clothes-free male companion, 54, were arrested last month for indecent exposure after a Michigan cop found them trysting in the back seat of a Buick Regal that was rocking gently and had its windows steamed over, according to a police report.

When the officer opened the vehicle’s rear door and asked the nude couple what they were doing, Tim Adams offered a concise answer. “I’m fucking this chick,” he said.

Yes, Adams referred to his septuagenarian consort, Rita Daniels, as a “chick.”

According to a City of Farmington Police report, Daniels’s 2002 Buick (license plate: DIVA 145) was in a shopping center parking lot, adjacent to a restaurant whose customers, including a 10-year-old-boy, apparently had a view of the illicit nighttime action on September 3.

Officer Andrew Morche noted that the car’s windows “were covered with heavy condensation,” and that Daniels was atop Adams “and the two were engaged in sexual activities.” The pair was parked in a spot outside the restaurants Luigi’s and Tre Sorelle.

A police investigation determined that the couple’s courtship was a brief one. They had met for drinks at a nearby bar “before moving to the back seat of the Buick.” When questioned by cops, neither Daniels nor Adams—both of whom were unsteady and smelled of booze—knew the other’s name. A Breathalyzer test recorded Daniels’s blood alcohol content as .15, nearly twice the state limit.

Daniels and Adams were busted for indecent exposure and disorderly intoxication and booked into the local jail, where they were held until sobriety returned. While in custody, cops noted, “Adams decided to strip to his underwear.”

Misdemeanor charges against Daniels and Adams, who are pictured in the above mug shots, are pending in Michigan’s 48th District Court.

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(WIDK By Staff Writer BIANCA COOMBS) - In part due to the film “Friends With Benefits” (starring Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis), hard working, jaded women everywhere have been secretly asking themselves if it is actually possible to have sex, no strings attached.

Is friends with benefits realistic for women?

First, let me start by defining “Friends With Benefits.” A Friend With Benefits as defined by the Dictionary of Mediashrews (not real by the way)  is that friend you can call for a sexual healing when you’re single and horny. Neither one of you put pressure on each other to call, spend quality sexless time, or do all the other boring things monogamous people do.

You make an agreement to never develop feelings for one another and move on when either one of you meets the “one.”  Basically, it’s a guiltless booty call. But is it a possibility for those of us who are love obsessed? By those of us who are love obsessed, I mean women. Here are some pros and cons of being Friends With Benefits.

Pros

Great Sex! What more is there to say? The stress that comes with relationships can be unbearable. Sometimes the bifurcation of sex and relationships is not only necessary but extremely gratifying.

Not Having To Buy Gifts. When you are in a friends with benefits type relationship, you do not have to fret about buying gifts for a lover’s birthday, Valentine’s Day, and the biggest burden of all, the expensive anniversary. You don’t even have to remember the anniversary. You don’t even have to remember each other’s names!

No Emotions. Emotions can be quite messy. When you love someone, you become subject to jealousy, anger, sadness, and stress. After all, there is a thin line between love and hate. When you have a friend with benefits, you don’t have to go through the drama of checking a facebook page the day after an argument and seeing that dreadful single status. There’s no going through phones, or searching dresser drawers while your lover’s asleep (don’t act like you’ve never done it!).

Cons

Crabs.  A friend with benefits has no loyalty to you so they are free to have sex with anyone else. Men cheat in committed relationships, what do you think will happen when you give them permission?

No Emotions. This can also be a con because you’re a flesh and blood human being. Spending intimate time with someone, whether it’s for 2 hours or 2 minutes, can cause you to develop emotions and emotions cause you to act erratically or worse… get hurt. Picture this: You’re all fancied up, you put on some Barry White and call Old Reliable over for a dalliance because you’ve just undergone a really bad break up. He doesn’t pick up the phone, or worse, he does pick up the phone and informs you that he’s found the one.  Whether you love the guy or not, being ditched for someone else can feel like a punch in the gut. Women outnumber men and you must always be aware of the possibility that he will find someone special before you do (if you do at all).

The fact is no relationship is easy. Whether it’s a meaningful or shallow relationship, issues will arise and it is important that you know yourself. You know what you can and can’t handle. If you can’t take the heat, get the hell out of the kitchen.

Bianca Coombs is the co- creator of twomediashrews.com, an everything media and then some blog. She is the creator of Quit Being And Idiot: A Relationship Guide For The Shrew.

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American student Amanda Knox tearfully begged an Italian court on Monday to acquit her of murdering her British roommate during a brutal erotic game, saying she was paying for a crime she did not commit.

“I did not do the things they say I did. I did not kill, rape or steal. I was not there,” she said, trembling and sobbing during her final plea to the court for freedom after nearly four years in jail.

(Reuters) - ”I want to go home. I want to go back to my life. I do not want to be punished. I do not want to be deprived of my life for something I did not do, because I am innocent,” she said.

The Seattle native and her Italian boyfriend at the time, Raffaele Sollecito, are fighting a 2009 verdict that found them guilty of murdering Leeds University exchange student Meredith Kercher during a drug-fueled sexual assault.

Kercher’s half-naked body, with more than 40 wounds and a deep gash in the throat, was found in 2007 in the apartment she shared with the American student in this Umbrian hill town.

The panel of two professional and six lay judges retired to consider a verdict immediately after Knox’s final plea. Their decision is expected after 8 p.m. (2 p.m.) on Monday.

Hopes are high among Knox’s many supporters in the United States that the 24-year-old will walk free from a Perugia prison after a forensic review that cast deep doubt on DNA evidence used to convict her and 27-year-old Sollecito.

Knox was sentenced to 26 years in prison and Sollecito given 25 years.

In his own final plea Sollecito offered judges a cream-colored plastic bracelet inscribed “Free Amanda and Raffaele” that he said he had worn for years.

“I am a Mr. Nobody but now they want Mr. Nobody to spend the rest of his life in jail,” he said in a halting voice.

The appeal trial has gripped attention on both sides of the Atlantic, with an outpouring of sympathy and outrage from many in the United States who see the American as an innocent girl trapped abroad in the clutches of a medieval justice system.

But the Kercher family, who want the guilty verdicts confirmed on Knox and Sollecito, say they trust the court will not be swayed by the American student’s “large PR machine.”

“Mez has been almost forgotten in all of this,” her sister Stephanie told a news conference as the family emphasized that the brutality of the crime must not be forgotten.

Their lawyer, Francesco Maresca, said they were stunned at the media clamor for the release of Knox and Sollecito.

Stephanie, Kercher’s mother Arline and brother Lyle have kept away from the media hype for much of the trial, but they flew into Perugia on Monday for the verdict.

“Forgiveness doesn’t come into it at the moment. Without a final ending to everything, it will be difficult to forgive anything at this stage,” Stephanie said.

“What everyone needs to remember, is the brutality of what actually happened that night and everything that Meredith must have felt that night … the fear, the terror and not knowing why. She didn’t deserve that, no one deserves that, she loved this place,” Stephanie added.

Kercher, from Coulsdon, Surrey, was on a year-long exchange program in Perugia when she was brutally murdered, bringing a flood of unwelcome attention to the hilltop Umbrian town.

Perugia residents resent the frantic media storm and feel the quaint image of their historic town has been sullied by allegations of drugs, booze and orgies among students there.

Knox, who has become thinner and lost her once cheery demeanor since being jailed nearly four years ago, almost broke down at the start of her 10-minute address.

“I am not what they say I am,” she said, seeking to rebut prosecution suggestions that she was a manipulative, sex-obsessed, pot-smoking “she-devil.”

“I am paying with my life for things I did not commit.”

She said she had been manipulated, her faith in the police betrayed and she had faced “unfair and baseless accusations.”

“I insist on the truth, I insist after four desperate years on our innocence,” she said after regaining her composure.

Knox barely spoke Italian when she was arrested days after the murder but addressed the court fluently, having learned the language in jail.

Knox and Sollecito have steadfastly maintained their innocence throughout. A third man, Ivorian drug dealer Rudy Guede, was imprisoned for 16 years for his role in the murder.

Prosecutors say Kercher was pinned down and stabbed to death when she resisted attempts by the three to involve her in an orgy. They have pointed to Knox as the key figure in the crime — painting her as a cold-blooded, sex-driven girl who led her boyfriend astray and drove the knife into Kercher.

Prosecutors have asked the court to extend Knox’s term to life in jail, saying she killed her roommate for no reason.

But their case was weakened by a review by forensic experts that dismissed police evidence that traces of DNA belonging to Knox and Kercher were found on a kitchen knife identified as the murder weapon.

The experts also said alleged traces of Sollecito’s DNA on the Briton’s bra clasp may have been contaminated.

The defense has argued that no clear motive or evidence linking the defendants to the crime have emerged, and say Knox was falsely implicated in the murder by prosecutors determined to convict her regardless of the evidence.

Among the many supporters Knox has won over the years is her prison chaplain, who defended her as she awaits her fate.

“She is certainly not this diabolical creature,” Don Saulo Scarbattoli said. “Even if you were pretending you would never be able to pretend for four years.”

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She’s feeling amorous and he knows how to follow instructions.

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A Utah movie theater has been fined more than $1,600 for showing “The Hangover Part II” while serving alcohol to patrons.

The state’s liquor board says Salt Lake City’s Brewvies theater falls under the same laws that govern strip clubs, which are prohibited from having fully nude dancing if they serve alcohol.

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SALT LAKE CITY (AP) — The board says the fine was warranted because of explicit scenes in the movie showing female, male and transvestite nudity. Other scenes that violated state law included a monkey simulating a sex act.

Department of Alcoholic Beverage Control Director Francine Giani says she will recommend that fines be lowered for future offenses. Currently, repeat offenders may be fined up to $25,000 and could lose their liquor license for up to 10 days.

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Facebook status reveals the pain she’s endured - if he only knew!

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A Style Network special called ‘Sperm Donor’ that follows the life of ‘Ben,’ an unassuming guy who’s been a sperm donor for years, premiered Wednesday night.

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(Huffington Post) — He’s recently been contacted by 15-20 of his biological children, and in this clip reveals to his fiance that his sperm may be responsible for fathering as many as 70 offspring.

To her credit, Ben’s fiance manages to contain her reaction, but the shock, and possibly horror, in her face is evident.

Ben’s fiance tells him she sees his actions as selfish, and the gravity of his decision seems to hit him in a way it hadn’t before. “I guess I was dumb. Maybe I’m being dumb now, I don’t know,” he says.

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Picture This - Oops (WIDK)

(WIDK) — Just a wholesome picture of people dancing….

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Day Ruiner - Man Chronicles His Sexual Relationship With A DOLPHIN (WIDK)

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(Huffington Post) - She was the one that got away.

Malcolm Brenner, 60, wrote “Wet Goddess,” a new book about a man’s nine-month sexual relationship with a dolphin — an affair that bears “a striking degree of resemblance” to his own interspecies romance.

The author claims he started his relationship with a dolphin named Dolly back in 1970, when he was in his early 20s. Brenner was a sophomore at New College of Florida in Sarasota. A writer hired Brenner to take photographs for a children’s book about the dolphin show at an amusement park in nearby Nokomis. He was given free access to the park and introduced to the staff.

If Brenner is to be believed, the dolphin courted him.

Initially, “she became more and more aggressive,” said Brenner, who lives in Punta Gorda, Fla. “She would thrust herself against me.”

But over time, Dolly became more gentle, he claimed.

“I found that extraordinarily erotic,” Brenner said. “It’s like being with a tiger or a bear. This is an animal that could kill you in two seconds if it wanted to.”

After about nine months, the Floridaland amusement park was sold to become housing.

His college sweetheart was shipped off to an oceanarium in Gulfport, Miss., while he said he enrolled in Evergreen State College in Washington.

The Huffington Post has been unable to verify his account of the affair with Floridaland officials; the park closed in 1971. However, historical photos and archival brochures indicate there was a “Porpoise Pool” attraction at Floridaland.

“I had every intention of going to visit the dolphin when I got back to the South, but it didn’t work out that way,” Brenner said. “I learned the hard way that dolphins are chattel, and much more emotionally vulnerable than I had ever imagined.”

Brenner said Dolly died about nine months after the last time he saw her.

“I had a vivid dream at the time about dolphins dying in a dark environment which proved to be remarkably similar to the oceanarium where she actually died,” Brenner said.

It appears that Brenner’s relationship wouldn’t have broken any laws. Florida only passed a law banning bestiality this year, after two failed attempts.

But Dr. Denise Herzing of the Wild Dolphin Project, which researches communication between dolphins and humans, said a book aggrandizing a human-dolphin sexual relationship could send a dangerous message.

“Glorifying human sexual interactions with other species is inappropriate for the health and well being of any animal,” Herzing told HuffPost. “It puts the dolphin’s own health and social behavioral settings at risk.”

But Brenner insists his relationship did not harm the dolphin.

“Some people find it hard to imagine that I wasn’t abusing the animal,” Brenner said. “They didn’t see me interacting with the dolphin. They weren’t there. These creatures basically have free will.”

Brenner points out that some researchers have argued dolphins should be considered “non-human persons,” because of their intelligence.

“What is repulsive about a relationship where both partners feel and express love for each other?” Brenner asked. “I know what I’m talking about here because after we made love, the dolphin put her snout on my shoulder, embraced me with her flippers and we stared into each others’ eyes for about a minute.”

“This was not some dog trying to hump my leg, okay. This was a 400-lb. wild-born female dolphin. She was an awesome creature.”

“As self-aware mammals, dolphins are capable of making profound emotional attachments to other dolphins and, apparently, to selected humans as well,” Brenner said. “A dolphin can die of loneliness, of a broken heart, of separation anxiety.”

As evidence of his claims, Brenner points to the story of former trainer turned animal rights activist Richard O’Barry, who said he watched a dolphin living in captivity commit suicide in his arms.

He’s not married, but Brenner said he has two ex-wives who knew about his fling with Dolly.

“Neither one objected,” Brenner said.

His daughter from his first marriage even designed the book cover.

Brenner, who is now a freelance writer and photographer, started writing “Wet Goddess” in 1973 at the suggestion of Dr. John C. Lilly. Excerpts were published in the 1974 anthology “Mind In The Waters” and Penthouse, according to Brenner.

“I was still too emotionally raw from the experience and my writing skills were inadequate to the task,” Brenner said.

He took it up again in 1994, finished the novel in 2000 and spent the next 10 years trying to get it published. Brenner said he shopped it around, but after “mainstream” publishers rejected “Wet Goddess,” he decided to self-publish the book last year.

So far he has sold about 230 paperback copies and 20 e-books. Vendors sell it for $16.95 on Amazon.

“I wrote this book for dolphins because we are mistreating these animals by keeping them in captivity,” Brenner said. “We should be attempting to communicate with them and treating them with more respect and dignity.”

Brenner said he might consider another relationship with a dolphin in the future.

“Under the right circumstances I would if I had the energy for it,” Brenner said. “I’m 40 years older now.”

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Britain, The LAUGHING STOCK - Shaming Images Caught By A Foreign Lens (WIDK)

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(Robert Hardman, Daily Mail) — They look like images you might find in some depressing police dossier.

Here, in vivid detail, is a squalid portrait of binge-drinking Britain. Some of the more incapacitated specimens are in mid-vomit. A few have simply passed out.

Tequila-fuelled young women strike crude poses that will (or should) mortify them in the sober light of day. More worryingly, one or two are unconscious on the pavement, dangerously vulnerable in their pathetic state.

One image —too disgusting to print here —shows one triumphal inebriate male advancing on a group of sozzled young woman exposing himself.

The scenes were all captured in Cardiff, in the area around St Mary Street and neighbouring ‘chip alley’. But similar scenes are being played out in town centres all over Britain every weekend.

Yet there was no sense of concern or revulsion the other day when this collage of shame was unveiled before an audience of 1,000 people. Instead, they leapt to their feet, applauding, roaring with laughter and crying ‘Bravo!’

For, in the eyes of the experts and professionals gathered at the International Festival of Photojournalism in the French city of Perpignan, this portfolio of work —entitled Cardiff After Dark —was a beautifully crafted and realistic portrait of life in modern Britain.

The next time we scoff at, say, the chauvinism of the French or the hysterics of the Italians, it is worth remembering the sort of stereotypes which are applied to Britain.

Polish photographer Maciej Dakowicz, 34, has been capturing nocturnal scenes in Cardiff — where he was previously a student — for the past five years.

The results speak for themselves.

Dakowicz admits that he would be unable to produce images like this in his home town of Bialystok in Poland.

People there just don’t demean themselves like that. But, in Cardiff, he was spoiled for choice. For all that, he remains fond of the Welsh capital.

‘Welsh people are very friendly and open,’ he says. ‘The atmosphere is very cheerful and everyone is having a good time.’ And so they are — if your idea of having a good time is passing out in a pool of vomit.

‘The pictures tell stories of drinking, of love, of violence, of lots of things,’ he insists.

Around 50 of these images were presented at the prestigious festival on a giant screen. The critics lapped them up.

‘The reaction was very positive,’ says Dakowicz. ‘The audience was laughing. They were making fun of British people.’

No doubt they were.

The nation which was once regarded as a buttoned-up bunch of repressives in bowler hats is now a land of incontinent alcoholics.

Spiffing, eh?

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California Hockey Mom Liquored Up Son’s Young Teammates And Had Sex With Two Of Them (WIDK)

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(Nancy Dillon, Daily News)- A hot-to-trot hockey mom plied her son’s teammates with alcohol and had sex with at least two of the boys over the last six years, authorities said Monday.

Katia Maria Davis, 44, was arrested last Wednesday at her home in Laguna Nigel, Calif., on suspicion of having sex with a minor under 16 and committing lewd acts with a minor younger than 14.

“We received complaints that she was throwing parties for members of the hockey team and other friends of her son and providing them with alcohol,” Orange County Sheriff’s spokesman Jim Amormino told the Orange County Register.

He said Davis, a divorced mother of three, committed the lewd acts on the victim under 14 about six years ago.

She allegedly engaged in unlawful sex with the other victim for about a year and half.

That victim recently came forward to his mom, and the mom contacted Davis’ ex-husband, according to the Los Angeles Times.

Both boys were members of the youth hockey team Beach City Lightning, the same team as Davis’ son.

The team’s president said the victims are no longer affiliated with the club.

“We take the safety of the kids very seriously,” team president Stacey Chilcoff told the Register. “Nothing like that is currently going on.”

Davis, who’s listed as unemployed in jail records, is out on $25,000 bail.

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By Day, Prosecutor for NY Attorney General – By Night, Brings Out Whips as S&M DOMINATRIX (WIDK)

(Daily Mail By MARK DUELL) — By day Alisha Smith is a respected prosecution lawyer in the New York state Attorney General’s Office on a decent salary of almost $80,000.

But by night the 36-year-old reportedly turns into dominatrix ‘Alisha Spark’ - paid for restraining and whipping people at S&M events, a source said.

Prosecutor Ms Smith is known to wear transparent skin-tight latex outfits with heart-shaped pasties while she is performing outside the office.

She has now been suspended without pay immediately by the state Attorney General following inquiries by the New York Post.

‘They pay her to go to the events,’ a fetish source told the New York Post. ‘She dominates people, restrains them and whips them.’

This is in stark contrast to just three years ago, when she was praised by the then attorney general Andrew Cuomo, now state governor.

He congratulated her for work in getting a $5 billion settlement from Bank of America and other organizations in a case of securities fraud.

A spokesman for state Attorney General Eric Schneiderman confirmed she had been suspended but would not say why.

But sources told the New York Post say her suspension is probably only because she has profited from the work.

Employees of the state Attorney General’s Office must get prior approval for outside work that could generate them more than $1,000.

Last month she tweeted about sexual lubricants to her friend and dominatrix Jade Vixen, whose real name is Edythe Maa.

A source told the New York Post the two women often attend fetish parties and have been seen working together on one submissive.

Neither Ms Smith nor her lawyer, Marshall Mintz, have yet commented.

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World’s Biggest Sperm Bank Tells Redheads: We Don’t Want Your Semen (WIDK)

(NY Daily News By MICHAEL SHERIDAN) — The world’s largest sperm bank is telling redheads to keep their semen.

Demand for ginger-haired donors is so low that Cryos International says they needn’t bother donating.

“There are too many redheads in relation to demand,” Ole Schou, the director of Cryos, told the Danish newspaper, Ekstrabladet, according to London’s Telegraph.

Men with scarlet manes sell “like hot cakes” in Ireland, Schou said, but that’s about it.

“I do not think you choose a redhead, unless the partner - for example, the sterile male - has red hair, or because the lone woman has a preference for redheads,” he said, the Telegraph reported. “And that’s perhaps not so many, especially in the latter case.”

Men with brown hair and brown eyes are very popular, Schou noted.

Cryos ships sperm to more than 65 countries around the world, and donors can score up to $500 for their semen.

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Boston Attorney Donated Sperm To Get Through Law School - Now Has 70 Kids And Counting (WIDK)

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(Linda Matchan, Boston Globe) - One day last spring Boston attorney Ben Seisler, 33, told his friend Vas Leckas he wanted to see him. He said had an important personal secret he needed to share.

Leckas’s first thought was it had something to do with Seisler’s upcoming wedding. His second thought (“I have an active imagination,’’ he says.) was that Seisler, whose parents live in Belgium, had inherited a valuable Flemish master painting. “I would have suggested he auction it off, with my assistance,’’ said Leckas, 32, a software salesman. “With a hefty art handler fee for me.’’

His fantasies could not have been more off base. When they met, Seisler confided that he’d been a sperm donor for three years while in law school, and recently learned he was the biological father of a “little dude,’’ who wanted to meet him. Also, he confessed, a little girl.

And one more thing, Seisler said. They have, “like, 70 or so siblings.’’

Since that conversation Seisler has learned about even more children conceived with his sperm, and he is pretty sure that number will go up. He is registered on an online registry called the Donor Sibling Registry that matches children conceived by sperm donors with their biological fathers and half-siblings. Based on his calculations, “I have reason to expect between 120 and 140,’’ said Seisler. He recently met two of them - a 7-year-old girl and her 4-year-old brother, who bore what Seisler calls “a bizarre resemblance’’ to him - as part of a reality documentary special, “Style Exposed: Sperm Donor,’’ which airs Sept. 27 on the Style network.

His experience puts a new spin on the definition of extended family, and makes for entertaining TV. “I don’t want to sound cold and calculating,’’ Leckas told Seisler after hearing the news, “but you can’t be at 70 birthday parties a year. There’s only so much Chuck E. Cheese you can take.’’

The situation highlights the complicated issues that are starting to emerge now that a sizable cohort of donor-conceived children are growing up and wanting information about their biological fathers. Issues such as: What if the kids want to meet the fathers? What if children from the same sperm donor meet each other, and unwittingly get married? When’s the right time to tell your girlfriend that you were a sperm donor? (Seisler broke the news to his on their third date.)

These are issues a lot of men may not have considered back at the sperm bank, a lucrative source of quick cash. Seisler averaged $150 per donation and said the transaction seemed pretty uncomplicated.

“They told me I’d be anonymous,’’ said Seisler, who donated sperm at the Fairfax Cryobank in Virginia to help defray his law school bills from George Mason University. “That made sense to me. I really didn’t think too much about people trying to find me.’’

It made sense to him at the time because it was a very different time. A decade ago, it was hard to anticipate that offspring conceived with his sperm would grow up in a culture that valued such openness about their origins. Or that there would be an online sperm donor registry to help donor children find their biological family members. (To say nothing of reality TV, to record dramatic reunions in real time.)

“The Web was there, but not like today. And no ‘23andMe,’ ’’ said Seisler, referring to a retail DNA testing service. “And I hadn’t heard of the Donor Sibling Registry.’’

The registry was created in 2000 by Wendy Kramer, a Colorado single mother whose son, conceived with the help of a sperm donor, was hungry for information about his heritage. “When he was 2 he came to me and said, ‘So did my dad die, or what?’ ’’ Kramer said. “By the time he was 6, he was saying pretty adamantly, ‘I want to know who my biological father is.’ As he got older, he started to wonder if he had any half-siblings. His thinking was there are other half brothers and sisters out there, and if we could all meet each other, we could see the invisible side of ourselves in each other.’’

She tried to locate them, but neither the sperm bank nor the medical clinic would help make the connection. So she took matters into her own hands, and started a Yahoo group for donor families looking for information about their biological relatives. (Eventually, her son did meet his father, and has met three of his six half-sisters.)

The Yahoo group grew into a nonprofit Web-based registry: Parents or children who register can type in their sperm donor’s cryobank identification number and connect with their half-siblings, if they, too, have registered. Donors can also post their information, which enables people to send them anonymous messages via the website.

That’s what Seisler did in 2005 after reading a newspaper article about the registry. Apprehensive but curious, he checked out the site. He remembered his donor number - 2149 -and posted it anonymously.

Within a week, there was an e-mail in his inbox from a parent who’d used his sperm to have a child. Soon there were more e-mails: Ten. Twenty. Thirty. He keeps track of them all on an Excel spreadsheet.

“I know of 75 kids,’’ said Seisler, who married last month and just moved to Albany. “The messages turned out to be very consistent. People thanked me and asked basic questions about medical information.’’ A few wanted to know if he’d be willing to be contacted by their kids when they got older.

He said he’d be happy to be contacted. “It was almost shocking at first [to hear from families], but at the same time, you realize that … what happened facilitated people having families. It was heartwarming.’’

One of the parents he heard from was a Seattle single mother named Sharon. She used Seisler’s sperm to have two children, selecting him from an online cryogenic bank catalog because his profile appealed to her. “He met the religion criterion. He met the looks criterion,’’ said Sharon, who asked that her last name not be used to protect her children’s privacy. “I wanted someone who looked enough like me that people would never question that they were mine. I wanted a professional. I wanted someone athletic.’’

Seisler was her man. “I’d read that finding the right donor is kind of like finding your soul mate,’’ she said. “When you know, you know. And that’s what happened.’’

One day about four years ago, she logged on to the Donor Sibling Registry and was surprised to see that Seisler had registered as a sperm donor. “I was like, wow, why don’t I just send him an e-mail and say thank you,’’ she said. “I also wanted to see if sometime in the future he’d be open to answering questions or even knowing about the children. He wrote back very promptly and said he was interested. I thought he was as nice a guy as he came across in his profile.’’

She didn’t immediately reach out to him again, though she did join a chat group of some other mothers whose children’s biological father is Donor 2149. The oldest is 9, the youngest is an infant. “We are still having babies,’’ Sharon said. “We had our newest addition last month.’’

Last fall, she was contacted by Wendy Kramer asking if she’d be interested in being part of a reality TV documentary. The Style network would fly her family - including her parents - to Boston to meet Seisler.

She was hesitant at first, but agreed. “I didn’t want to have to kick myself, to say I had the chance and I blew it,’’ she said. “At least they can say they met their biological father and he is a decent guy.’’

They met in May to spend an afternoon at a miniature golf course in Marlborough, and if the reality TV show reflects reality, it’s clear that this new uncharted sperm donor world can be complex. In the show, as they prepare for their wedding, Seisler’s fiancée is clearly miffed about his situation, especially when he tells her on camera that the number is up to 70. She can barely bring herself to refer to them as “children.’’ (She prefers “offspring.’’)

“What if they all come knocking?’’ she asks Seisler, angrily. “I kind of deem it selfish. Did you think of the consequences that would come out of this?’’

Back in Seattle, Sharon struggles for a way to tell her daughter about Seisler.

“How did mommy get the sperm?’’ she asks Abby, who is 7.

“Google?’’ Abby replies.

The actual meeting is awkward at first, but turns poignant. “I don’t want Ben to leave,’’ Abby pleads at the end of the day. Sharon’s mother hugs Seisler and thanks him for her grandchildren. “If I had to pick a father for them, I couldn’t have picked anyone more perfect,’’ she said.

Seisler said he’s glad he met the kids but admits the experience was at times a bit surreal. “It was kind of wild. On the one hand, these kids are biologically my kids. On the other hand they are not my kids. I didn’t raise them. I have no control over how they are raised.

“There is no road map for this, no protocol to follow,’’ Seisler reflected. “This really is uncharted territory.’’

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